SMS – Social Media Soulmate
As an introvert, it has always been difficult for me to socialize and more so, to expose myself, express my feelings and my opinions in public and in front of other people. I was always the one who, in groups and social gatherings, stood outside, watching from the periphery, yet soaking in the vibes and analyzing my surroundings and the other people present. When my friends started to dance on the table at parties, I watched silently from a corner. But I feel comfortable this way. I live in my head. What I lack in social performances and skills, I have always made up intellectually and mentally. In fact, my mind works furiously all the time. I observe and I analyze. I have a life-long group of best friends with whom I feel comfortable and who allow me to come out and totally be myself, but other than that, I have to work on myself constantly when it comes to face social situations of any type in real life. So really, it is not surprising that I chose to become a freelancer and work from home, isn’t it?
This is not a story about online dating, nothing would be further from my mind than to sign up with an online dating service. Not my style and never will be. I am also the romantic type who has always believed that I will meet my true soulmate, one way or another. The Universe will find a way to align us in this life.
And it did.
I set out to explore the possibilities that the internet and social media have to offer, first only because my brand-new freelance business also needed a social media platform, but then I ended up living a true online romance that could happen to anyone …
It all started with Instagram, which is my favorite social media channel. I am highly visual and enjoy beautiful images, cool edits, vibrant colors, along with little stories and meaningful captions. The perfect combination of words and images, like an illustrated book. I am not into the endless selfies feeds of wanna-be models and Influencers, but rather enjoy the diary-style raw shots of life in the city, or the fantasy-infused highly skilled Photoshop edits, or the lovely and pleasant landscape images, or the lovingly arranged and beautifully photographed flatlays. Just to name a few. There is some true talent to be found on Instagram.
And virtual friends as well. Every once in awhile I come upon a profile that really speaks to me and I feel a connection. That may be because I am highly intuitive because I have been able to feel connections and vibes that nobody else notices all of my life. Obviously I don’t know the person, but his posts speak to me, his stories capture my attention and I become curious. I want to know more about that person’s life, but not necessarily his identity. I look through his entire feed and discover more and more things that grab my attention and that I truly like. At some point, I feel like I know this person somehow. I start engaging with him in comments, and soon he discovers the same about me. We start communicating in more detail and on a more personal level. We discover that we think alike, have the same views and opinions. We start looking forward to a new post and a new comment from each other. He admits that he too is an introvert and that Social Media allows him to express his views and feelings while in situations with people he encounters in real life, he struggles with social anxiety.
There it is then, the connection that works both ways.
It feels like I have an opportunity to get to know a person without the limiting burden of physical and social aspects. I don’t know what he looks like, I don’t know his ethnicity, his religion, his social status, his likes and dislikes. Which means we communicate on a very raw and straight soul-to-soul level. It’s only the very essence of me and him. If I would have met him in real life, he or I might have thought “He/she is not my type physically”. And the relationship would have ended right there and then. Without giving each other a chance, without even considering that he might have a beautiful personality and a lot to share with his environment. We express feelings and opinions that in real life we might have thought too stupid, too emotional, too childish. Blind date? Not for me. What if I don’t like him, what if he is a jerk, a nerd or any other cliche, what if he only wants to get into my pants? I couldn’t stand the embarrassment … spending an evening having dinner and trying to make bland conversation with someone I just never want to meet again.
In short, our relationship concentrates on essential aspects and attributes and the soul-liberating experience to communicate with someone who shares my ideas and ideals, my point of views and feelings, my tolerances and intolerances, my music and my visuals, my adventures and my favorite season. But not on distracting physical qualities and prejudices as well. Like the magical Age number? Doesn’t matter. I’ve always preferred redheads? Doesn’t matter. My partner must be in good social standing? Doesn’t matter. Money? Doesn’t matter. It might grow over time, or it might not, but even so, it has given me the opportunity to share moments of another person’s life across distance and time.
It did grow in our case.
I can barely put into words the intensity and emotional level of our soul connection. The amount of information we have exchanged via messages in only a few weeks’ time. The vibes and energy we share with each other and send out to each other. The butterflies in my stomach every time a new message comes through. The total exposure of my soul to him and his to me, down to the most raw feelings and most intense life experiences that have shaped us to become who we are today. The heated discussions about the one topic we have completely different opinions about. The subtle changes in moods not visible to anyone but us. Me learning from his lifestyle and wisdom, he learning from mine. I don’t know where this is going to lead, but I do know that I wouldn’t want to miss a single minute of it.
And the joint project we have started. Our book and website collaboration, to promote both his and my work in our respective areas. A new partnership leading to yet more adventures and possibilities, the joint achievement of our dreams.
Instagram has approximately 80 Million active users, but out of that vast number the Universe has aligned the two of us in a way that allowed our paths to have crossed and we both stopped at that specific moment in time to look at each other and let our souls connect …
And we have shared it all with each other, total strangers in real life really, but actually not at all because we are Soul Mates on Social Media …
We’re going to meet in New York City in October, our favorite month of the year.